What exactly do I call a successful first date? This is different for different guys. Some consider it great if they can just kiss a girl, while others don’t settle for anything less than taking her to bed. The truth is sad. Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past 25 yrs, I have learned that there’s nothing you can do to guarantee anything specific with any particular girl.

However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically increase your chances of having a successful date with a girl, whatever meaning you may put into that.

1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.

Don’t take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a “date.” If you do, that puts her into the same “make him wait” mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.

Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. Don’t make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal and it was clear to her, they were merely hoping to get laid. You shouldn’t do anything because you’re “hoping to get laid” for this only kills the attraction a woman feels.

A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so it is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing.

2. Have the proper mindset throughout the date.

You want to be relaxed and feel sexual and engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny. When you two are in rapport, your emotional states will eventually match with each other.

3. Get her alone with you.

Let’s say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things are really going well there. The conversational vibe is excellent. You see signs of her increasing arousal and deepening attraction to you, such as:

  • Sitting with her inner thigh exposed.
  • Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or two on her blouse.
  • She looks in one of your eyes, then another, and then at your mouth.
  • She steals glimpses at your chest and even your crotch.

John Alexander, the author of “How to Become an Alpha Male”. Click here to visit my site and read more about me and the techniques for dating girls with more success.