So, you’re meeting your date in two hours. There’s a good chance you’re a nervous wreck. Nerves are a natural part of playing the dating game, but they can also do more harm than good. Excess nerves can cause you to be someone you’re normally not while making a first impression. It probably isn’t a good idea to make your first impression be one drenched in sweat. Here are a few tips on avoiding first date nerves:
Don’t Be a Last Minute Planner
While it’s tempting to spend as little time preparing for a date as possible in order to keep your mind on other things, it’s better to take your time when getting ready to make sure you’re not rushed. Plan for where you’re going and how you’ll get there. Preparation calms the nerves.
Being a gentlemen helps being attractive in the eyes of girls. Their hearts are always captured by men with good manners, so if you want to impress a girl, you gotta make sure you always do those little things that may seem unimportant to you but, nevertheless, tell girls a lot about your personality.
While browsing a list of handsome guys on a dating site, it’s easy to get whisked away by the idea of finding that perfect man who looks good, makes a ton of money and gives you everything you could ever ask for in life. The reality, unfortunately, is that everyone has faults. Yes, everyone. Even your best friend’s seemingly-perfect husband has faults.
It’s natural to hope for that perfect, fault-less man while you’re first getting your feet wet in the dating world, but there comes a time and place to realize that Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s close to perfect. There’s striving for perfection. In the long run, those two qualities actually mean more than perfection. Why? Because the man who thinks he’s perfect usually acts like an asshole anyways.
Have You ever wondered what makes women go after certain men?
So have I. By the age of 22 I was still a virgin. I dated a few women, but it didn’t lead to anything more. Anytime I’d make a few female friends, it always ended up the same: I’d follow them around like a tail… listening to their problems… hoping somehow it would lead to a date, but… alas!
It was this way until I started my own research for the techniques that could help me meet and eventually date more women. To put it straight, it took me 4 long years. And what I uncovered changed my love life in a big, big way. I suddenly started finding myself in one “can’t-miss” situation after another… where hot, young women were approaching me… and then literally begging to take me home for more!
It’s no secret that men and women are often very different when it comes to how they interpret verbal and physical cues. In many ways, we’re simply wired differently. This is one reason why the first few dates are always a little nerve-wracking. It’s easy for both the man and woman to say the wrong things or send the wrong signals.
There are a few ways to make that first date a little less nerve-wracking, however. Here are three things a woman should avoid saying on the first couple of dates:
1. “It’s up to you.”/”I don’t care.”
Even if you’re naturally easygoing and don’t feel the need to make every decision, be careful about saying lines like “I don’t care what we do” or “You decide” too often. Men sometimes take such lines as signals meaning that their date is distracted or bored. Be decisive about helping him call the shots on a date and he’ll likely appreciate the help.
Can it be that women really think that guys in glasses are hot?
A recent study about female attraction to males revealed that hormonal changes in a woman’s body make her more attracted to certain types of men at different times during her monthly cycle. Things such as body shape, the symmetry of the body and face, body smell, body posture and the way a guy moves, all have an influence on attractiveness.
A study by scientist Dr. Jeremy Nicholson appearing in the magazine Psychology Today sought to uncover what physical characteristics were attractive to the opposite sex. They were stunned to discover that most of these qualities were things that men could change such as: good grooming, neatness, nice clothes, posture and a healthy weight. We can glean from this, that you don’t need to worry about endlessly pumping iron at the gym or going onto a strict diet to get the perfect male physique. It turns out that simply keeping your nails and hair clean, your weight under control and dressing stylishly, could land you a nice girl.
Meeting prospective partners online is simple enough. Chatting with them for the first couple times is also fairly straightforward. But what comes next? If you’re not ready to meet them in person yet or unable to, how do you keep the growing friendship/relationship exciting while still in that crucial ‘getting to know each other’ phase? It’s easy to ask them in person to see a movie or concert, but what can you do when you’re stuck online and actually want to do something?
With a bit of creativity and knowledge of the person you’re chatting with, it’s actually quite possible to think of a whole lot of things to do online. Chatting in real time via instant messaging services or even video chat is one great option that lets you share a closer and non-delayed bond. Another option is to share in an enjoyable activity online.
Yesterday I was thinking about how important it is to get to know someone before meeting in person, and suddenly it struck me. You might find disagreement with this sentiment, but communicating too much can actually do you a bad service.
Because you re unable to replicate the way you respond to someone in person. Because so much of what attracts us to another person happens on a subconscious, lizard brain level. You have no control over it, and you just need to meet in person before you can know if you’ve found the right one. Yes, it’s one great failure of online dating. And that’s why it makes little sense to spends weeks or even months communicating via text, email, or even webcam.