While browsing a list of handsome guys on a dating site, it’s easy to get whisked away by the idea of finding that perfect man who looks good, makes a ton of money and gives you everything you could ever ask for in life. The reality, unfortunately, is that everyone has faults. Yes, everyone. Even your best friend’s seemingly-perfect husband has faults.
It’s natural to hope for that perfect, fault-less man while you’re first getting your feet wet in the dating world, but there comes a time and place to realize that Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s close to perfect. There’s striving for perfection. In the long run, those two qualities actually mean more than perfection. Why? Because the man who thinks he’s perfect usually acts like an asshole anyways.
Have You ever wondered what makes women go after certain men?
So have I. By the age of 22 I was still a virgin. I dated a few women, but it didn’t lead to anything more. Anytime I’d make a few female friends, it always ended up the same: I’d follow them around like a tail… listening to their problems… hoping somehow it would lead to a date, but… alas!
It was this way until I started my own research for the techniques that could help me meet and eventually date more women. To put it straight, it took me 4 long years. And what I uncovered changed my love life in a big, big way. I suddenly started finding myself in one “can’t-miss” situation after another… where hot, young women were approaching me… and then literally begging to take me home for more!
It’s no secret that men and women are often very different when it comes to how they interpret verbal and physical cues. In many ways, we’re simply wired differently. This is one reason why the first few dates are always a little nerve-wracking. It’s easy for both the man and woman to say the wrong things or send the wrong signals.
There are a few ways to make that first date a little less nerve-wracking, however. Here are three things a woman should avoid saying on the first couple of dates:
1. “It’s up to you.”/”I don’t care.”
Even if you’re naturally easygoing and don’t feel the need to make every decision, be careful about saying lines like “I don’t care what we do” or “You decide” too often. Men sometimes take such lines as signals meaning that their date is distracted or bored. Be decisive about helping him call the shots on a date and he’ll likely appreciate the help.
Can it be that women really think that guys in glasses are hot?
A recent study about female attraction to males revealed that hormonal changes in a woman’s body make her more attracted to certain types of men at different times during her monthly cycle. Things such as body shape, the symmetry of the body and face, body smell, body posture and the way a guy moves, all have an influence on attractiveness.
A study by scientist Dr. Jeremy Nicholson appearing in the magazine Psychology Today sought to uncover what physical characteristics were attractive to the opposite sex. They were stunned to discover that most of these qualities were things that men could change such as: good grooming, neatness, nice clothes, posture and a healthy weight. We can glean from this, that you don’t need to worry about endlessly pumping iron at the gym or going onto a strict diet to get the perfect male physique. It turns out that simply keeping your nails and hair clean, your weight under control and dressing stylishly, could land you a nice girl.
Meeting prospective partners online is simple enough. Chatting with them for the first couple times is also fairly straightforward. But what comes next? If you’re not ready to meet them in person yet or unable to, how do you keep the growing friendship/relationship exciting while still in that crucial ‘getting to know each other’ phase? It’s easy to ask them in person to see a movie or concert, but what can you do when you’re stuck online and actually want to do something?
With a bit of creativity and knowledge of the person you’re chatting with, it’s actually quite possible to think of a whole lot of things to do online. Chatting in real time via instant messaging services or even video chat is one great option that lets you share a closer and non-delayed bond. Another option is to share in an enjoyable activity online.
Yesterday I was thinking about how important it is to get to know someone before meeting in person, and suddenly it struck me. You might find disagreement with this sentiment, but communicating too much can actually do you a bad service.
Because you re unable to replicate the way you respond to someone in person. Because so much of what attracts us to another person happens on a subconscious, lizard brain level. You have no control over it, and you just need to meet in person before you can know if you’ve found the right one. Yes, it’s one great failure of online dating. And that’s why it makes little sense to spends weeks or even months communicating via text, email, or even webcam.
Without any doubt, online dating sites are the easiest and most popular way of meeting someone via the internet. However, there are also other ways of connecting with your potential soulmates online, and one of these great source of connection are online forums.
There’s a discussion forum online for just about every topic, giving you an easy way to connect with like-minded people. Pick something you’re deeply interested in, be it a hobby, your favorite sport, your favorite travel destination, etc, and find a busy forum where lots of members chat.
Money does tend to make life a little easier, but it’s not a necessity to have a great date. For little to no cash outlay you can plan and execute something amazing by taking advantage of the world around you. Going cheap often requires more effort in research and planning, but you’ll find that doing the work ends up impressing your partner more than spending money would, leading to a far better experience for the both of you.
Use the Natural Beauty Around You
No matter where you live there’s bound to be accessible natural beauty. This can be as simple as a lake or the ocean, or as wondrous as a gorgeous mountain. Grab a blanket, pack some food, and find a spot with a view and you have an insanely cheap date that can be as romantic as anything else available to you. Make sure your spot is quiet so you have alone time with your date and you’ll connect beautifully. When planning dates in beautiful spots make sure that you try something new as often as possible. Once you’ve been to the same spot a few times it will lose its magic.
In the world of online dating, the first date should be treated differently than real world dating. There’s a limit to the level of connection you can make across emails, texts, and phone calls, and it’s only when you’re in person that you can tell if you have actual chemistry with someone. With that in mind, here are tips for how to approach a first date in the online dating world.
Schedule the First Date Quickly
There’s a great temptation in online dating to spend months getting to know someone via electronic communications before you meet. It seems logical, but the only way to discover if you have chemistry with a potential mate is to meet them in person. Chatting online will make you a friend, but if you’re searching for a long term relationship then you should get to the first date as quickly as you feel comfortable.