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Three vital tips for preparing for a first date

Planning to go on a first date?
So, you’re meeting your date in two hours. There’s a good chance you’re a nervous wreck. Nerves are a natural part of playing the dating game, but they can also do more harm than good. Excess nerves can cause you to be someone you’re normally not while making a first impression. It probably isn’t a good idea to make your first impression be one drenched in sweat. Here are a few tips on avoiding first date nerves:

Don’t Be a Last Minute Planner

While it’s tempting to spend as little time preparing for a date as possible in order to keep your mind on other things, it’s better to take your time when getting ready to make sure you’re not rushed. Plan for where you’re going and how you’ll get there. Preparation calms the nerves.

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Watch What You Say: Three Things to Avoid Saying On a Date

There are certain things you'd better not say on a dateIt’s no secret that men and women are often very different when it comes to how they interpret verbal and physical cues. In many ways, we’re simply wired differently. This is one reason why the first few dates are always a little nerve-wracking. It’s easy for both the man and woman to say the wrong things or send the wrong signals.

There are a few ways to make that first date a little less nerve-wracking, however. Here are three things a woman should avoid saying on the first couple of dates:

1. “It’s up to you.”/”I don’t care.”

Even if you’re naturally easygoing and don’t feel the need to make every decision, be careful about saying lines like “I don’t care what we do” or “You decide” too often. Men sometimes take such lines as signals meaning that their date is distracted or bored. Be decisive about helping him call the shots on a date and he’ll likely appreciate the help.

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Topics: communication, dating tips, first date, money

Are You Talking Too Much?

Couple on a dateYesterday I was thinking about how important it is to get to know someone before meeting in person, and suddenly it struck me. You might find disagreement with this sentiment, but communicating too much can actually do you a bad service.


Because you re unable to replicate the way you respond to someone in person. Because so much of what attracts us to another person happens on a subconscious, lizard brain level. You have no control over it, and you just need to meet in person before you can know if you’ve found the right one. Yes, it’s one great failure of online dating. And that’s why it makes little sense to spends weeks or even months communicating via text, email, or even webcam.

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Have a Great Time on Cheap Dates

You can have a great time even on cheap datesMoney does tend to make life a little easier, but it’s not a necessity to have a great date. For little to no cash outlay you can plan and execute something amazing by taking advantage of the world around you. Going cheap often requires more effort in research and planning, but you’ll find that doing the work ends up impressing your partner more than spending money would, leading to a far better experience for the both of you.

Use the Natural Beauty Around You

No matter where you live there’s bound to be accessible natural beauty. This can be as simple as a lake or the ocean, or as wondrous as a gorgeous mountain. Grab a blanket, pack some food, and find a spot with a view and you have an insanely cheap date that can be as romantic as anything else available to you. Make sure your spot is quiet so you have alone time with your date and you’ll connect beautifully. When planning dates in beautiful spots make sure that you try something new as often as possible. Once you’ve been to the same spot a few times it will lose its magic.

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Simple Tips for First Date Success in Online Dating

What to do on a first date?In the world of online dating, the first date should be treated differently than real world dating. There’s a limit to the level of connection you can make across emails, texts, and phone calls, and it’s only when you’re in person that you can tell if you have actual chemistry with someone. With that in mind, here are tips for how to approach a first date in the online dating world.

Schedule the First Date Quickly

There’s a great temptation in online dating to spend months getting to know someone via electronic communications before you meet. It seems logical, but the only way to discover if you have chemistry with a potential mate is to meet them in person. Chatting online will make you a friend, but if you’re searching for a long term relationship then you should get to the first date as quickly as you feel comfortable.

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10 Tips for Online Dating

With so many people online, it’s no wonder that the internet is now one of the most popular ways to meet someone you might be interested in dating. An enormous number of dating websites, millions of members, and the convenience and comfort of searching for love online are just a few of the reasons it’s become so commonplace in today’s high-tech society. If you’ve decided to give online dating a try, there are a few pointers you might want to keep in mind that are sure to make your experience with it more successful. Featured for you here are ten of them.

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First Date Confidence Boosters

The dating world can be rough-rife with rejection, people still clinging to their ex and bad matches to name a few issues. Our ego is easily bruised and we are particularly vulnerable when it comes to romance and dating. With each new person we meet, that spark of hope that this may be the one burns strong. We may get very anxious, hoping the person will like us. We all have confidence issues to some degree and it is natural to be a bit nervous but when it is more extreme, it can really hamper our efforts at finding love. Here are some tips to boost confidence on that first date that worked well for me when I was out on the dating scene.

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How to Talk to Girls at Parties

Talking to girls at parties is pretty easy because there are a group of people around so it is easier to approach her. The things you need to remember is not to use some cheesy pickup line, don’t tell her you are a doctor at the university when in truth you are an office worker at the university and do not be a pig and tell her she has a lovely chest area the minute you sit down.

So how do you start to talk to girls at parties? Well you can walk up to a girl you think you may be interested in and say hi or hello. Do not say hey. That is too causal. That is something you say to your buddies not some girl you just met. If she responds with a smile, great. If she looks like she is trying to ignore you or just gets up and leaves, you may want to move on to someone else. Do not try and stalk her to get her to talk to you. It is obvious that she doesn’t so don’t force the issue.

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5 Dating Rules That You Should Break

There is a lot of dating advice floating around out there and sometimes it’s difficult to figure out which tips to follow and which to ignore. Dating tips aren’t one size fits all, but it’s safe to say that the following five common dating tips should be deleted from your memory permanently.

These are the top 5 dating tips that you should ignore.

1. Women should always wait for the guy to call. Why should men have to do everything? If a woman wants to call a guy and ask him to dinner, he’ll probably be thrilled to have the pressure taken off of him. Problems arise when women keep pursuing a man who isn’t reciprocating-at this point, it’s best to stop calling and let him come to you.

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How to Talk to Girls on the Street

Most guys are scared to approach a woman for the first time almost anywhere but especially so on the street. It is not because they haven’t thought about it. I am sure that every guy out there has seen a cute girl on the street and wanted to go up to her and talk to her but was too shy or embarrassed. It is not really that difficult, however.

The first thing you need to remember is that anywhere you go, talking to a girl for the first time may seem a bit awkward. So whether it is the coffee shop or Main Street, you have to know what you are doing. You don’t want to just approach her and scare the crap out of her so that she thinks you are some weirdo. The way you approach her will be the difference between her telling her friends about the nice guy she meet in front of the coffee shop or telling them about the creepy dude who approached her in front of the coffee shop.

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