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Marriage Proposal Fails and How to Avoid Them

Man proposing to a girlfriendAs a marriage proposal planner at The Heart Bandits, I have helped tons of guys with proposal advice, ideas, and planning. There’s nothing like being at an actual proposal and seeing a couple take the next step in their relationship. There are tears flowing (not from me of course), smiles everywhere, and just a lot of emotion involved that you can’t help but be happy for the couple. It’s nice to know that they have a special story to tell because their proposal was pretty awesome.

One troubling trend that I’ve noticed recently though has been some pretty bad marriage proposal fails that have appeared on social media in the last few years. These fails have either been displayed publicly when the girl has actually declined the proposal, or the proposal itself has been pretty bad. For this reason, I want to give guys out there some advice on what to avoid when planning your marriage proposal.

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10 Reasons Why Women Have Affairs

Is the “happy ever after effect” on the decline? More and more women are becoming disillusioned with previously acceptably boring but happy lives. There are some very common reasons that could send a women right out the front door and into the arms of somebody new and exciting.

1. Not Again!
Being with one person for a long period of time can lead to the bedroom bore. A monotonous sex life is at the root of most affairs. The prospect of the same position, same time, same bed, same room week in and week out can be just too much to bear. It was ok in the beginning but now it is nothing more than a chore. There has got to be more excitement to be had elsewhere.
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The Moving in Checklist: What You Must Ask Yourself Before Moving in With Your Partner

So you’ve been dating for a while and now things are moving into more serious territory. A generation ago you’d probably be talking about marriage but for 21st century couples, even those who consider marriage to be the long-term goal, an intermediate rung on the relationship ladder is often moving in with one another. Yet, to all intents and purposes, renting or buying a place together with your significant other is akin to marriage and if you want to avoid potential heartbreak then you need clarity to help you make the right decisions.

If it hasn’t already occurred to you then you should be aware that moving in and living with someone, even someone you love is difficult. The fact that so many couples end up divorcing should tell you that and just as no couple enters a marriage with the intention of getting divorced, so no-one moves in with their partner eagerly anticipating the subsequent break-up.

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4 Things That Ruin Happy Relationships

Although there are many reasons that relationships can go sour, for the most part, when an otherwise happy relationship starts to falter the reasons may not be so clear. Sometimes the reason could be large and obvious, but most of the time the problem is the culmination of many small things, some of which the couple didn’t even realize were an issue. Here are four things that might be secretly causing stress in a relationship, as well a few practical tips on how to overcome them:

1. Familiarity

One of the sure fire ways to kill a happy relationship is to grow too familiar with each other. It is one thing to find someone that you can be yourself around; that is one of the most beautiful things in the world. However, it is another thing to start taking that person for granted and showing this familiarity and lack of respect in ways such as forgetting to do the little things that make your partner happy, getting so comfortable you feel you can “be gross” around him or her, or letting yourself go and not keeping up your physical appearance or health.

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Finding and Maintaining Your Ideal Relationship: Follow Your Heart and Forget Everyone Else!

Whether it is your own family or society at large, there are lots of ideas that have been deeply ingrained into us about how life is supposed to be, what is supposed to make us happy, what are appropriate and inappropriate ways to conduct ourselves, what constitutes success, what is responsible, what is the “right” thing to do. For the most part, these declarations are completely arbitrary and are simply the result of someone else’s thinking and opinion on how things “should” be.

But, because they have been drilled so deeply, we can begin to view these arbitrary declarations as objective fact and look at things that are ultimately a matter of preference as being “right” and “wrong.” Even if certain courses of action do not feel right, we do them anyway, thinking it is the proper thing to do. We may want to do something else but we are afraid of what others will think or that we are wrong for wanting the things that we want, that we are making some huge mistake by going after them.

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How To Keep Being Interested in Each Other?

Before you ever get into a serious relationship it is advisable to talk about your dreams and life goals with your partner. In order to build a strong relationship you need to have things in common which are important to both of you. You both need to be totally honest with each other when sharing your goals and dreams or you will find yourself living with someone you have nothing in common together.

Here are some important goals to talk about and compare your thoughts and answers.

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A Wise Woman Builds her Home

A couple resolving their disputeWhen it comes to relationships it’s really important to understand that it isn’t always easy to live with someone else even though you have many things in common. But love is essentially about compromising, in fact you need to entirely accept your partner, that is to say his qualities but also all the things that he doesn’t do right. Here are some valuable tips on how you can make your home a better place for you and your man.

Learn to Understand your Man

The common mistake of human beings is that we all like to be understood before trying to understand others. But if you try to do the opposite, that is to say listening and understanding others before wanting to be understood, then you’ll see that you’ll communicate better with others. You can try to apply this principle with your partner and you’ll see that the communication between you and your lover will be improved.

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How to Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship

In every person’s lifetime, there will be an occasion where one is confronted with an unhealthy relationship. Whether it be with a family member or your significant other, unhealthy relationships can develop and one must be aware of the signs of an unhealthy relationship.

Jealousy is common in all human relationships and can have devastating effects on the ones you love if it is not able to be handled correctly. Jealousy parallels the fear of losing someone that you love to someone else. Usually, jealousy develops during periods of lacking communication and misunderstanding. If the person you love, for example, is hanging around with other people, jealousy can develop because of the intense fear of having your significant other become attracted to one of these friends. More often than not, the jealousy is completely unnecessary and instead a huge overreaction to something that is completely normal. Dealing with jealousy can be simple and manageable with a few simple tips.

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Show Appreciation To Your Partner

Did the common everyday courtesies you used to offer and receive from your partner cease and desist after you two got married? One of the worst things you can do is simply forget about showing your partner respect and just expect. This is your life partner, don’t you think you both deserve to be treated with every respect that strangers get every day from you?

A few years ago I was visiting a girl friend when her husband snapped, “Woman, get me a soda!” That alone shocked me, but what happened next was even more amazing. She jumped up and got it for him. In order to get respect from your partner you must expect it, and not allow them to treat you this way. Now, I personally would have laughed at him for expecting me to get up and get him a soda when he asked for it this way. I would say. I don’t think so. Have you ever heard the word please?

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How to Forgive a Cheating Lover

Finding out that your spouse has cheated is a huge test of your relationship – and for many people, it’s the end of the road. However, if you decide that you can carry on and look past your partner’s fall from grace, there are ways to ensure you don’t get stuck obsessing over their previous (and hopefully only) slip-up. However, nothing’s easy – this isn’t as simple as booking a romantic weekend at a B&B and hoping that after two days of breakfast in bed, everything’s OK. It probably won’t be – so you need to make sure that you do everything you can to ensure that your relationship can stand the distance.

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